I am sipping tea, and we’re standing between Mumbai and Vadodara, somewhere on the highway. Everyone’s sleeping in the bus, after all, it’s 3 AM and we’re tired after a long day, an exhaustive performance, so much travel, and a workshop on ‘voice and speech’. We travelled by bus, a team of 10 people, to a festival which was competitive in nature. We came back with a merit and few words of appreciation. An experience to remember.
With 2 nights of constant travel, the driver needed rest. We halted. I stepped out. Behind me came one of my youngest team mates, ‘you know, paranormal activity happens between 3:00 AM and 4:00 AM’ he said. “Is it?” I inquired curiously, with a smile. Another colleague got down and joined me for tea, “It’s 3:30 AM” I smiled, “eerie time to be awake huh?”; “Perhaps!” said the 15 year old. “But we have the moon with us! The light will help.” said my colleague, and we looked up to the sky. Interestingly mesmerizing, was the view of the moon. We stood in silence, sipping tea and drawing inferences. I could hear the ocean, distant. I could also hear the winds, in conversation.
“Theatre is like an ocean” my colleague had said in the workshop, where the mentor asked us why we do theatre. Theatre is like a ocean. “Why would you say that?” I ask him now, in an afterthought. He says, “It’s beyond the purview of our common sight.” “You may read a dailogue and simply speak it out, but the depths that lie in each word, need a lot more of reading between the lines, flowing between the lines to really comprehend.” He says, in a matter of fact manner.
I knew, I always knew it is beyond.
In fact, in one of my childhood poems I had a line about my dreams (theatre), it ended on the sentence, ‘I know it calls me far beyond, than where I walk to it.”
In this journey, it called me beyond my limits, my language, my identity, my perspectives, my belief systems, and my spirituality too.
Something like Love.
We begin our journeys in love with a certain belief system. With a certain expectation. With a certain idea. For some it’s traditional, for some it’s free spirit – but ultimately, it is a belief system. And when that doesn’t work, we either feel rejected or we feel dejected. Isn’t it?
For one thing, I have always been liberal, generous, and spontaneous. I have been loving, and caring too. I have centred my life, around love. I have made it a priority too. And still I find myself, disappointed in some ways. Though, happy in some too.
Happy because I centred my life around love, but it wasn’t one love.
Yes! As disturbing, ironical, disgraceful as that may sound – it wasn’t one love. I centred my life around love for my people and love for my work. I centred my life around my romance with a person and with an idea.
In most cases, the ideas survived, the person taught me something more about life and left. The disappointment isn’t so much in leaving, as much as how the goodbyes happen. This song perfectly defines it, ‘Mana ke hum yaar nahi”, where she says “raaste mein jab milo toh, hath milane ruk jana.” Effectively, yes, we aren’t friends anymore but can we still greet eachother on the crossroads of life? In respect of our past. Let’s begin with believing that we were right people, just different in opinion and expectations; is it possible to achieve this each time we are disappointed in people?
And perhaps that’s where my disappointment lies. In the love that despises, rejects, turns away and disowns. Like you never existed. Like life, goes on, like it never mattered and it never counted. Do we really need to be heartless to be strong? Do we have to be free from emotions to be brave?
But then, even as these questions persists, the answers lie in the second love. More often than not, I found that these encounters smooth out, that people do come back in one way or the other. It’s rare that someone who mattered too much to you, walked out and you never saw or heard of them again. Even in death, one will certainly walk to the funeral of the other. I especially like that scene in the movie, Dear Zindagi, the last scene, when Kyra makes her film and at the premiere, are each of her past flames. Putting their past behind them and respecting that journey, you seem them cheer her on.
And you can see, what has set her free! It wasn’t another ‘shoulder’; it wasn’t another person, but her romance with life, her love for her work.
Yes, there was a Shahrukh Khan in Dear Zindagi too.
A special friend, a special bond that helped her find her calling, her ‘second love’ (her work), but it didn’t take away anything from her own journey. The interaction helped her define her own ways and routes, and in the end, that’s what we need to strive for.
“It’s 4 AM” says my 15 year old friend, “What are you thinking so much?”
“Nothing” I reply, “just about our Play!” The play, Kundalu by Makarand Musale, was about 3 characters: “A” who is stuck in his circle and strongly believes that life is meant to be lived in limits, “B” who is trying to understand the limits while being curious about the horizons beyond and “C” who has lived a life of explorations, beyond the questions, followed the heart, respected the struggles and cherished the journey.
“Ah! You were thinking about the end right? Which path did B chose? The life of security or the life of discovery!” he asks excitedly.
Our play din’t have an end, and left it to the imagination of the audience, which path to take.
“Whichever way you go, just don’t get stuck in the same circle” adds my colleague, as the three of us walk back to the bus.
I smile on the inference, it’s ultimately about growing, becoming better, stronger, wiser and closer to the self, and not make the same mistakes. It’s about breaking the limits – the circles, the loops that twine our thoughts, confuse our actions and end up limiting our journey. Like the performing the play, Kundalu, taught us.
Taking it a little further…
Don’t get into the loops that chain you. Set yourself free.
Continue to love, though you can love differently.
Let there be romances,
Just make sure there are two 😉
One with the person
And one with you!
As I get back into the bus, I can hear the ocean call me. They are both my love and my friendship. My passion, my theatre, my romance as well as my companion, my listener and my lyric.
She asked the ocean,
“What do you see?”
He said “I see footsteps,
And a long journey”.
She asked the ocean,
what is sunset?
He smiled, it’s the beginning,
for a new day you must rest.
She asked the ocean, “where do you head?
Will I see you again or is this an end?”
He returned in response, as a gentle touch, as a wave,
“You can see me when you want, I am right where you left.”
She asked the ocean,
“What language do you speak?”
He answered in a riddle,
“Ask your heart what it seeks.”
‘She asked the ocean,
“what is love and what is friendship?”
He answered with comfort,
“that my waves merge in deepness is love,
and that is return is friendship”
And let me leave you with the song that I mentioned earlier, and while you hear it, please pen down your thoughts in the comments or write to me at email@example.com.
Lots of love, always!